Thinking back to your wedding day, you probably never imagined you would be here, reading a divorce lawyer’s website. Divorce is difficult to think about and painful to experience. But, it’s important not to get beat down about divorce.
Real Solutions for Men Everyday
Many men take a passive role in divorce and let their soon to be ex-wives make all the decisions. While giving into their demands may end the divorce quickly, you’ll be living with the choices your ex-wife made for a long time. You have a voice and you have the right to make decisions about your divorce and your future. The choices you make right now are the building blocks of your life after divorce.
One of the key reasons we started Divorce Lawyers For Men was to make sure that husbands and fathers have a voice in divorce. So that men who have worked hard to provide a life for their families don’t end up living in tiny apartments, paying all their income in support, and never seeing their children. All because their ex-wife got tired of being married.
You can trust Divorce Lawyers For Men to fight for you. For over 30 years, we have given men a better life after divorce. We’re good lawyers, doing good things, for good men.
How We Help You
For men, divorce can be an uphill battle. Here are some of the challenges you may be facing in your divorce and how Divorce Lawyers For Men can help you.
I want custody of my children
Your soon to be ex-wife wants full custody of the children. For fathers going through divorce, one of the greatest challenges is fighting for the right to have your children live with you. Sadly, outdated notions still stipulate that children should live with the mother. Fathers asking for full custody (called “residential placement” by the court) face the unspoken presumption that the children will be living with the mother.
At Divorce Lawyers For Men, we reject all presumptions about where the children should live. We hold the court and the other side to the standards set by the law. The court has a duty to rule in the best interests of the children. We work tirelessly to show the court the best interests of the children is served by living with their father. Working a full-time job does not preclude a father from having custody of his children. We have been winning custody for fathers since the 1980s and we’re not stopping now.
I won’t get to see my children enough
Your soon to be ex-wife wants you to have only limited visitation with your children. She wants to keep the kids most of time, giving you only one or two weekends a month. Her attorneys have cited several reasons why this is in the best interests of the children. This is a common complaint we hear from men going through divorce. Once a father is bullied into approving this plan, he will have limited contact with his children for years to come. Both you and your children suffer.
We feel there is nothing more important than a father’s relationship with his children. You should never accept an unfair level of visitation with your children. During your divorce, a Parenting Plan needs to be approved by both sides and the court. We will negotiate hard to make sure you have time with your kids. We have the experience to protect your right to see your children.
If you’re already divorced and living with an unfair visitation schedule, we’ll go to court for you and have the parenting plan modified.
I am going to pay too much in child support
After completing the Child Support Schedule, the projected child support is far more than you can afford.
A Divorce Lawyers For Men attorney can help you complete the child support schedule and make sure your income information is entered correctly. Depending on your income type, it can be difficult to complete the schedule. If you work for yourself or you’re paid through commissions or bonuses it is important to record that information properly and explain it to the court. The child support schedule is based on “net income”. It can be difficult to determine what your real net income is. There are several factors that can used to lower the calculation of your income to make it your actual net income. That will help to have your child support set at the proper, not inflated, level. Reporting an income higher than you actually make will result in child support you cannot afford. It’s vital to make sure your wife has fully reported her income as well. We’ll work hard to make sure all the financial information is truthful and correct on the support schedule.
If even after the schedule is completed properly, the amount is still more than you can afford, it’s possible to ask the court for a deviation from the schedule. Especially if child support is greater than 50% of your net income, the judge can set it less than the schedule. We will aggressively argue the reality of your financial situation before the court for reasonable child support.
My wife wants alimony for years
Your soon to be ex-wife wants a large amount of spousal support lasting for many years. The goal of spousal support is to make sure both spouses are left financially stable after a divorce. If you made more than your wife during the marriage, she will ask for spousal support (alimony) from you. Since there is no formula set by the court for the amount of this support, your wife can ask for a large amount every month for many years to come. Some divorced men end up paying lifetime spousal support.
We will thoroughly examine your wife’s position post-divorce. There are many factors to consider. What is your wife’s education level? What is her employment history? How much of a financial cushion does she really need to be stable after the divorce? With a clear examination of the facts, we will aggressively negotiate with the other side to make sure any spousal support is realistic and fair. Spousal support should be based on the ability to pay, as well as the need.
My wife has accused me of domestic violence
You have been accused of domestic violence for verbally threatening your soon to be ex-wife. She is threatening to or has already filed for a restraining order.
At Divorce Lawyers For Men, we take all charges of domestic violence very seriously. If a restraining order is filed against you, it can have negative consequences on the outcome of your divorce case, and on your professional and private life. We will aggressively defend you in court and fight any inappropriate motion for a restraining order or order for protection.
Divorce Lawyers For Men™ attorneys offer real solutions for men going through divorce in Washington. Our experienced family law attorneys understand the unique challenges men face in divorce. Call us today at (360) 866-7393 to speak with an attorney who understands your situation.
If you would like more information on the divorce process, or to take the best divorce resources with you in print, please check out our free divorce guide for men or contact our office to meet with an attorney about your particular circumstances.