◊ Do's and Don'ts For Men Facing Divorce

DON'T put your children in the middle of your divorce. The divorce is between you and your spouse. The children are innocent victims not getting divorced.

DO show your children the love and attention they deserve. Make sure that they know they are not the reason for the divorce.

DON'T stop the children from seeing your (ex)spouse during their scheduled visitation time because she owes you money.

DO promptly pursue collection of delinquent child support through the court.

DON'T use child support payments or visitation as a weapon against your(ex)spouse.

DO try to resolve the problems with your (ex)spouse. If the two of you can't resolve the problem then contact your attorney to find out what legal actions you can take.

DON'T put your spouse down in front of the children.

DO show respect towards your spouse in front of the children. If you can't do that then do not say anything at all. It will only come back to haunt you as well as send the wrong message to the children.

DON'T use your children as a negotiating ploy during the settlement process.

DO be honest and up front. Judges know when the children are being used and do not look highly upon such tactics.

DON'T spend $1,000 on attorney fees fighting over a $150 piece of furniture.

DO use good business sense when deciding what to fight for and at what cost should you fight for it.

DON'T get greedy. It doesn't matter if you wanted the divorce or your spouse did. Just because you're hurt and your emotions are running high, does not mean that you are entitled to more than the law allows. This attitude will cost you unnecessary attorney fees and the judicial system doesn't care about your personal feelings.

DO be reasonable and flexible. Find out from your attorney what you are entitled to by state law regarding equitable property distribution, alimony and child support.

DON'T use your children as a therapist. They are not equipped to handle the emotional strain being placed on them.

DO get professional help if you need it to cope with your divorce.

DON'T pay your child support late.

DO pay your support obligations on time. Not only will you avoid legal ramifications, you are also supporting your children. The money goes towards the rent/mortgage, food, clothes, utilities and other necessities.

DON’T violate any Restraining Order, or any other Court Orders

DO obey all Court Orders.  If you disagree with a Court Order, have your attorney file a motion to change the Order.